If you have herpes, dating might sound like a depressing chore. You might be afraid that you’ll frighten a potential partner away when you tell them you have herpes. And you should prepare yourself for that. Some people will hear that and not give you a fair chance.
As painful as that can be, you shouldn’t let it get you down. For people who have herpes, dating can be more difficult. But there are many ways you can make dating an enjoyable part of your life again. You don’t have to feel like you shouldn’t ask someone out because of the disease.
It’s important for you to realize that you’re not alone. Herpes is a common disease. In fact, about 25% of the population in the United States carries the virus for genital herpes. That’s 1 in four people who carry the disease. Unfortunately, most of them don’t even know they have it.
So you’re not alone, and you’re not the only person to suffer with herpes. Dating can be a challenge, even knowing that. But because so many people do suffer with the disease, there are ways you can meet them. Online sites designed to introduce people who have herpes are available to you.
You don’t have to limit yourself by thinking you must find a mate who has herpes. Dating can continue much as before, if you wish. But websites designed for those with the disease can help take a lot of pressure off you. You won’t have to ‘break it’ to your date that you have herpes, because they have it too and are aware that you do.
Using sites like that can be a great way to get back on the dating scene without having to tell anyone you have herpes. Though it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t be ashamed of having the disease. It’s something that can happen to almost anyone. And you should realize that people with herpes can fall in love, get married, even have a family, just as those without herpes can.
Right now, though, your focus is just on dating and having fun. Try the sites designed for herpes sufferers for some no-pressure fun. You might even find that special person who also has herpes, and you’ll never have to worry about spreading the disease to your partner. But you shouldn’t limit yourself to this type of dating, unless you want to.
There’s no reason you can’t date someone who doesn’t have herpes. In fact, that person is probably less likely to contract the disease from you than from someone else. That’s because you know you have it and you’ll practice safe sex to keep them from getting it. They’re more likely to get it from those 1 in 4 people who have it and don’t know it!
Tell your partner about your herpes before you have any kind of intimate contact. But it’s not necessary to tell them before the first date. Soon you’ll see that even with herpes, dating can still be fun and exciting.